It’s funny to think that next mother’s day I’ll have a baby in my hands. She’ll be here for Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and pretty much for the rest of my life.
Normally when I think Mother’s Day, I’m thinking
1: Buy Flowers.
2: Visit my mother.
In fact this is my plan for this year. The difference this time is that I’m second trimester at this point and the baby is obvious in my stomach.
This also has me thinking about Favorite Coffee, Favorite Crush as both my main characters have horrible mothers. Now the women are completely different but they have a major control issue. Where did this story idea come from? Great question because it’s certainly not my mother. I told my mother I was flying across the world, she’d tell me to pack clean underwear for the trip.
She’d worry about me everyday, but she’d not go out of her way to stop me. I appreciate that about my mom. She’s pretty awesome when you can catch her. (Unlike this writer, my mother has a much fuller life than me. I’m sure she’s making party plans for herself.)
When I am a mom though, it’s time I change. I have to be a good example for my daughter to emulate. I’ve been thinking a lot about the habits of mine that I don’t want to model to anyone else. For instance when I’m upset, I go deep inside myself and go to a dark place. Now this isn’t often! I’m usually bouncing and happy, but I have a dark side that rears its head. So I’ll keep that part of myself for the writing so I can enjoy my baby girl and she can see that her mom is cool. It’s time to be like my mom.
Guess that means it’s the cycle that continues and that’s truly not a bad thing.
So to all the mother’s out there, Happy Mother’s Day!!!
Frequently Asked Questions
How does becoming a mother change your perspective on your own habits?
Becoming a mother prompts many women to reflect on personal habits they don’t want to model for their children. For example, one expectant mother noted her tendency to withdraw into a dark emotional place when upset — a trait she decided to reserve for creative outlets like writing, rather than expose to her daughter, aiming instead to model positivity and emotional health.
What kind of mothers are portrayed in the novels Favorite Coffee and Favorite Crush?
In the novels Favorite Coffee and Favorite Crush, both main characters have mothers described as having serious control issues. Despite being completely different women, the two maternal figures share this dominant trait. The author notes this portrayal was not inspired by her own mother, whom she describes as supportive and non-controlling.
Is it better to have a supportive hands-off mother or a protective controlling one?
Based on one author’s reflection, a supportive, non-controlling mother is preferable. She describes her own mom as someone who would worry but never try to stop her from pursuing goals — like flying across the world. This approach, she argues, is worth emulating as a new parent, allowing children independence while still expressing genuine care and concern.
