I’m not going to lie. Until I met my husband, I went for years all alone on this day and often with a romance novel. I totally believed in true love, but I dated men who were all wrong for me.
So this is reaching back and remembering the not so long ago days when my husband wasn’t in my life.
- Believe in Yourself and in Love.
If you believe that you are the best possible version of yourself or you’re at least on the path to liking yourself, how can you date anyone worthwhile? It’s better to go find a self help meditation class and focus on liking yourself.
- Believe in Love
I grew up on Disney movies. I spent the first half of today at the Florida Romance Writers monthly meeting where I had a side conversation on all things Disney related. I also won the trivia game for naming the most romantic comedies from the quotes provided. I also spent time writing romances or reading romance.
- Believe You Can Do it Alone but Leave Room in Your Life for someone else
This is going to sound contradictory. Don’t take any guy in your life. Most are not worth it. You only need the one who is right for you. You are not too old or too young so don’t believe that nonsense either. No one is perfect and a relationship will help you see your own flaws. So be happy in a room by yourself without any noise. Be happy alone, but don’t grow so bitter that you don’t leave room for someone else. Leave an empty place for someone else to sit. Leave an empty drawer. Let someone else fit in, but don’t expect immediacy. Instead it’s time for you.
- Believe in Others
Trust is the number one component of any relationship. So you have to learn to listen to your heart and also you have to believe that others are generally good. Remember how you were as a child when you made friends and they were your best friends, forever. I still have one friend from early childhood that I can call and it seems like no time has passed. Tap into that inner child and then believe in the guy you do like. He’ll pull through, if he’s a good one. And if he disappoints you, then he’s out the door, which you also should have learned that skill in the playground.
- Relax
The life span of a human being keeps expanding these days. The days of the bubonic plague might come back, but I’m not betting on it. There is plenty of time, no matter what your hormones or body makes you feel. Don’t give into panic. Relax. It’s all going to be fine.
Okay so that’s my top five ways to pick your Valentine. If you don’t have one this year, you will in the future. So why don’t you read Borrowing the Doctor now? Kate’s on the run as her family set her up. She has to listen to what the FBI tells her to do. She never expected to fall in love. Find out if she finally does get her own happy-ever-after in Borrowing the Doctor, available now at http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00S7R0TAY/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_S963ub0F1EPBE
Frequently Asked Questions
How do you pick the right person to date for Valentine’s Day?
To pick the right Valentine’s date, focus on self-confidence first — you need to be on a path to liking yourself before you can attract someone worthwhile. Trust is essential, so believe others are generally good. Don’t settle for just anyone; wait for someone who truly fits your life, like leaving an empty drawer or chair for the right person.
What does it mean to be happy alone but still leave room for someone else?
Being happy alone while leaving room for someone else means becoming genuinely comfortable in your own company — sitting quietly without noise or distraction — without growing so bitter that you close yourself off to love. Practically, it means symbolic gestures like leaving an empty drawer or seat, signaling openness without desperation or a timeline.
Is it better to be alone on Valentine’s Day or date someone who isn’t right for you?
According to this perspective, it is far better to be alone on Valentine’s Day than to date someone who isn’t right for you. Spending the holiday solo — even with a good book — beats settling for the wrong person. Use the time for self-improvement, like a meditation class, and focus on building the self-worth that attracts a worthy partner.
